安靜了 January 29, 2009

this song has been looping on my mp3 for the past few days. some of the lyrics remind me of u.  

只剩下鋼琴陪我站在這裡
zhi sheng xia gang qin pei wo zhan zai zhe li
There’s only the piano left to stand here with me

夢想中 屬於我們的婚禮
meng xiang zhong, shu yu wo men de hun li
The marriage between us that I’ve always dreamt of

卻成了 單人結婚進行曲
que cheng le, dan ren jie hun jin xing qu
Has become the tune of someone walking down the aisle alone

在這場愛情角力的拔河裡 愛我還是愛你
zhe zhe chang ai qing jiao li de ba he li, ai wo hai shi ai ni
In this love tug-of-war, to love me or to love you

你選擇了自己
ni xuan zhe le zi ji
You chose yourself

撒嬌的 可愛的 女人的 愛哭的
sa jiao de, ke ai de, nv ren de, ai ku de
Poutingly, Cutely, Girlishly, Loving to cry

照片裡 曾經的都是你喜歡的
zhao pian li, ceng jing de dou shi ni xi huan de
All the photos contains memories that you like

如今我還在原地 你卻走回你的記憶
ru jin wo hai zai yuan di, ni que zou hui ni de ji
Till today I’m still at the starting point, but you have already walked back into your memories

你說我愛你太多 就快要把你淹沒
ni shuo wo ai ni tai duo, jiu kuai yao ba ni yan mo
You said I loved you too much, so much so that it’s drowning you

你害怕幸福短暫一秒就崩落
ni hai pa xing fu duan zhan yi miao jiu peng luo
You’re scared that happiness will ebb after only a second

分開是一種解脫　讓你好好的想過
fen kai shi yi zhong jie tuo, rang ni hao hao de xiang guo
Breaking up is a form of relief; it allows you to think through carefully

我想要的那片天空　你是不是能夠給我
wo xiang yao de na pian tian kong, ni shi bu shi neng gou gei wo
Can you give me that life that I want

你說我給你太多 卻不能給我什麼
ni shuo wo gei ni tai duo, que bu neng gei wo shen me
You said I gave you too much, that you couldn’t give me anything

分不清激情承諾永恆或迷惑
fen bu qing ji qing cheng nuo yong heng huo mi huo
Can’t tell between fervour, promises, eternity or temptation

愛情是一道傷口
ai qing shi yi dao shang kou
Love is like a wound

我們各自苦痛
wo men ge zi ku tong
Let’s endure the pain ourselves

什麼是我最后溫柔
shen me shi wo zui hou wen rou
What is my final act of gentleness

是因為我太愛你
shi yin wei wo tai ai ni
Is because I love you too much

只剩下鋼琴陪我站在這裡
zhi sheng xia gang qin pei wo zhan zai zhe li
There’s only the violin left to stand here with me

夢想中 屬於我們的婚禮
meng xiang zhong, shu xu wo men de hun li
The marriage between us that I’ve always dreamt of

安靜了 在我整夜的夢裡
an jing le, zai wo zheng ye de meng li
Has been silenced in my night-long dream

我知道相愛原本就不容易
wo zhi dao xiang ai yuan ben jiu bu rong ai
I know that mutual love is not easy from the start

愛不是一加一
ai bu shi yi jia yi
Love is not just one plus one

努力就有結局
nu li jiu you jie ju
You won’t always get results even if you work hard

撒嬌的 可愛的 迷人的 愛哭的
sa jiao de, ke ai de, mi ren de, ai ku de
Poutingly, Cutely, Girlishly, Loving to cry

照片裡 曾經的都是愛著你的
zhao pian li, ceng jing de dou shi ai zhe ni de
From all the photos we’ve taken it can be seen how much I once loved you

臉頰的淚還溫熱 卻沒有人握我的手
liang jia de lei hai wen re, que mei you ren wo wo de shou
The tears on my cheeks are still warm, yet there’s no one holding my hand

why men dun listen n women cant read maps January 29, 2009

I’m currently reading a book that talks about the differences between men n women; how men n women perceive the same world through different eyes. It is definitely an amusing book and is very true about how each of the different gender operates n prioritize in. The book is called “ why men don’t listen and women cant read maps”. If you wanna improve r/s n understand one another better, you should get this book! It makes you understand better on why your partner simply just dun gets it!

 

Here’s some important lessons to learn:

 

How we behave depends on how our brain is being wired.

 

For males, brain is highly compartmentalized, have ability to store n separate information. At the end of the day full of problems, a man’s brain can put them away. The female brain does not store information tt way.

 

Men can mentally index their problems and put them on hold while women churn.

 

The only way to get rid of her problems is by talking about them to acknowledge them. Her objective is to discharge the problem, not to find solutions! Talking about day to day problem is how women cope with stress. We see it as bonding n supportive. All men have to do is to LISTEN!

 

However when women talk, men feel nagged

 

Why? Because men have a logical, problem solving mind. Listening to girls talk is hard work as he feels he is expected to solve each problem tt she brings up. He wants to get to a point of it and the objective of things. But the objective of women talking is just to talk. It is a way to destress.

 

EMOTIONS

 

For men, emotion is generally positioned in the right brain and is operated separately from other brain functions. For women, emotion operates on a more widely spread area of both hemisphere and can operate at the same time as other brain functions.

 

This explains why most women can let emotions “control” them.  

 

Think twice when you say those women are scary. Because men can behave very differently when they are upset.  

 

An emotional man can lash out like a reptile ; an emotional woman prefer to “ talk about it”

 

Men’s brain being highly compartmentalized deal with emotions on a more basic animal level, similar to an attacking crocodile; lashing out vocally or becoming aggressive. But women prefer to sit down and talk about it as they see it as building r/s.  

Priorities

 

Women values relationships and men value work. If a woman is unhappy with r/s, she can’t concentrate on her work. If a man is unhappy at work, he can’t focus on his r/s.

 

Under stress, woman sees spending time talking with her man as a reward but man sees it as interference to his problem solving process. When a man thinks, he wants to sit on the rock and think about solutions and he wants to be alone to do it. This silence is a problem to women as for us, if a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you. If she’s not talking to you, you are in serious trouble.  

Reminisce January 27, 2009

Hello everyone ! I wonder who still visit this space or has it been long forgotten. I wonder if you still visit this space.. i wonder if i still have a place in your heart but i noe it is all self deluding.

It has been almost one yr from my graduation from Rp. Really really miss the times back then. 

This one yr has been a great learning experience for me. Although i am very much on my own now in a new school , i am glad that my poly frens are growing up wif me. All of us busy wif our own life, boys in army n girls wif work n studies

University life is seriously different from how it feels like in poly days. Everyone is so competitive and friends are hi bye frens that dun hang out after school or outside of school. I see how environment can influence and train a person’s character. I see how lifeless human beings can be and how ppl can be so practical. I am lucky tt i am able to survive my days in school with huixin . but now tt she is leaving for SIM , i feel slightly depressed but at the same time happy for her as she found her passion in life . I wonder how it feels like without her with me.    

It’s the second day of the chinese new yr. kept myself at home. haven been feeling happy for a very long time. since the day tt you left.. still stuck .. not tt i have not been trying. Tried to hold back the tears every random nights but it is so much easier to let it flow.

behind the smiles and laughters, do u see the pain n tears ? i wish it was not you that broke the promises. i wish tt you are still the one who chase my nightmares away. the memories stayed. i wish tt 13.09.08 will not stay. but it seems to last an eternity in my mind, running the images in a loop. i thought i didnt knew you on tt day . is tt really you ?

love is not blind. it sees but doesnt mind. how i hope tt this story will nv end n our lives will not be a parallel line. my self delusion.. when will it end?  i wanna run away, i wanna hide. i wanna give myself up, i wanna let this love die. but how can i do it ? no one taught mi.

in the end, i still love you as much as i first started to know you …